Episode #778

December 30, 2023

Arguments come in many shapes and forms.
They can be as civilized as a formal debate and as primitive as a yelling match.


During the holidays the mixing of relatives and friends comes inevitably with differences of opinion. It is OK to discuss these differences in a civilized way. Beware of stubborn recalcitrance that devolves into contradiction.

One thing that arguments have in common is the exchange of ideas.
Each side of an argument has a point of view.
It is beholden to both sides to listen to the other’s belief.

Yes, belief has a legitimate place in an argument. If arguments were about facts there would be no difference of opinion. Belief in different “facts” is, however, the seed of disagreement.

The key to a successful argument is to hear what the other side has to say, analyze its content and conclude with a critical thought of your own. Take your time. An enlightened debater will wait for you to respond. If the protagonist is impatient, it is OK to ask for a moment.

The exchange of points of view should draw the debaters toward each other, not away. The object is not to recruit the other to your point of view, but to communicate an understanding of yours.

At the lowest end of argument is contradiction. This is the domain of a yelling match. It goes nowhere and it will not end well. Simply stating a contrary adjunct is not argument.

“Yes it is!”
“No it isn’t!”
“It certainly is!”

Masters of the contradiction were Monte Python’s Flying Circus:

My debate technique is to understand the other’s position, discover their sources, compare them to my own, and communicate their position back to them. Only then, do I reveal my own reasoning.
“I understand what you are saying, but this is how I see it.”

The ideal end of an argument is to shake hands as friends. Even if the final conclusion is to agree to disagree.
Always leave room to enjoy the turkey dinner and the rival football game together.


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